Author: Tammy Taylor, CPT
Most of us at one point or another have spent some time creating vivid fantasies about what our lives would look like if only we could change that ONE thing about ourselves that we don’t like or wish were different. If only my hair would grow six more inches, if only my nose were just a bit smaller, if only I could fit into *insert jean size here*; if only… then my life will be so much better, right?
Oftentimes it can be very easy to fall down the slippery slope of disproportionate expectations. We equate weight loss not only to losing excess pounds, but to losing all of our negative thoughts and patterns that took years to develop. Changing our physical appearance through healthy habits leads to some wonderful results–renewed energy, strength, better health and renewed confidence in our abilities to reach our goals. Losing weight cannot magically give us self-assurance that we never had in the first place.
True long-lasting change takes time. As you practice other Noomy habits such as logging your food, limiting red foods, and doing your daily tasks, don’t forget to practice self-love and acceptance along the way!
The best way to embrace the new you is to embrace the current you!
1. Acknowledge your feelings
Acknowledging the gap between how we feel versus how we think we should feel is a great first step towards bridging the gap between perceived expectations and reality! For instance, receiving compliments on our appearance after weight loss can feel wonderful and truly appreciated. At other times, the well-meaning compliments can make us feel vulnerable and uncomfortable. Instead of viewing these two opposing feelings as good or bad, try asking yourself this question–why am I feeling this way? Embrace whatever feelings you have and allow yourself to grow and move forward from them.
2. Realize perfection does not exist
We each have our own set of unique traits and genetics that we can mold to become the best version of ourselves. This process of becoming the best version of ourselves does not mean that we have to strive to be like the ads we see stream across our social media feeds with airbrushed illusions of what the human form should look like. Instead the journey of becoming the best version of ourselves should be filled with self discovery and embracing all of the scars, stretch marks, curves, and dimples that tell our individual stories.
3. Stop the comparisons
Theodore Roosevelt said it best when he stated, “comparison is the thief of joy.” Being able to look at our own strengths and values when we are constantly bombarded with photos and updates from our friends or acquaintances is not easy to do. So a quick tip to help stay focused on your own path is to recognize what your triggers are. What are situations that cause you to begin to feel feelings of inadequacy? Now make a list of how it impacts you negatively and why it is not worth your time!